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YOUR CHILD IS A BLAMELESS OBSERVER.

 

When you think the child is not watching.

I remember a day I was driving and a crackbrained almost gave my car a new color. Before I knew it, my daughter had yelled at the driver with the swear word “waka” it dawned on me that I always uttered the profanity to blundering drivers. I resolved never be uncouth towards anyone while driving. I admit that I do sometimes gritting my teeth, desperately fighting to keep the lid of my anger in firm place with loonies, screwballs and crazies sharing same space with sane people on the roads. I tried so hard to polish my crude areas because someone (7 others) might be watching.

I had to also keep away or throw most of my makeup away when I saw her trying to imitate me. I explained why she could only do so at a certain age!  This talk was necessary because she saw my friend’s daughter wear make up and her 15-year-old wears full make up all the time! It was a herculean task saying NO to heels. Her friends wear heels.  Why do I wear heels then if I had to forbid her to wear one? I do not subscribe to children on heels or covered in makeup. Let children be children. Let them develop naturally in stages.

My Nephew came home on his first holiday from America where he schools. He was schooling in a catholic school where expulsion was a reward for bad behavior before he went abroad. Even trips abroad before he moved to America were chaperoned. Evidently, he lived a shielded life in Nigeria. What was happening around him in America as an adult on his own was new-fangled to him. He told his father his schoolmates and peers drank, smoked, partied and did stuffs. He did not accede to the temptations from his peers because instinct and upbringing told him it was ruinous and dire. It was definitely out of the ordinary to him because his father did not indulge in them. His father told him he had also seen some classmates and peers doing that during his own time but he chose to stay away from those destructive enticements because his own father did not do that.

A lady once said she began drinking alcohol when her father drank he offered them sips from his bottle. From sips, he began buying them alcohol. She has a 14-year-old son and a 16-year-old daughter who drank alcohol and she is not a bit worried about them probably becoming alcoholics in future.

That is why I get worried when some parents especially women drink alcohol in the presence of their children. I get worried when mothers dance erotic one corner dance, I get worried when mothers wear outlandish clothes and dress their daughters similarly unsuitably. I see mothers wear transparent clothes with their barely concealed voluptuous breasts in bras popping out. I get worried when some Ankara styles have deep suggestive front with breasts jostling to be covered and fleshy bare backs staring at you even in church.

Children watch us as parents. We are the bible they read, the compass that charts their paths through life. They are nippy and blameless observers. We may have made some mistakes it is never too late to adjust.

Please let us adjust to have a well-balanced, well-propositioned decent, upright society.

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